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aqua-twin:

"Maybe you’re not [heterosexual/homosexual/some kind of allosexual], maybe you’re just [insert love interests name]-sexual"

NO, NO THERE IS AN ACTUAL LEGITIMATE NAME FOR THAT

THERE IS A NAME FOR ONLY BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO THOSE YOU HAVE A DEEP EMOTIONAL BOND WITH 

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tagged → #demisexual #sexuality
genderoftheday:

Today’s Gender of the day is: Carnivorous plant

genderoftheday:

Today’s Gender of the day is: Carnivorous plant

ladyyatexel:

Today I wanted some sparkle.

ladyyatexel:

Today I wanted some sparkle.

debunking an abuser myth

youneedacat:

mostwonderfulthymeoftheyear:

PROVIDING FOOD AND SHELTER IS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR ABUSE.

Just because someone gives you food and housing and any other manner of gift or possession does not give them the right to abuse you emotionally, mentally, or physically.

Often time abusers will use this as an excuse.

IT IS NOT AN EXCUSE. EVER. 

Highlighting previous poster’s tags:

#forced dependency is a PART of abuse #giving people things they need to survive so they can’t leave

I’ve found that doubly so in disability situations and caregiver abuse, it can get horrible.  And some of the most manipulative caregiver-abuse I’ve ever experienced has involved them making themselves invaluable in one area to try to make me not fire them.  In both of the worst cases, they were excellent cooks and able to get me food for very little money, and make amazing meals out of it.

One of them went too far when he tried to convince me that he could help me commit Medicaid fraud in order to get a med I was prescribed but couldn’t get.  I reported him, instead of being grateful to him for “helping” me again.  It turned out he’d been doing similar things to lots of other disabled people.

One thing he also did — so did the other one like him — they would badmouth other staff and talk about how they were better than all the other staff.  They would make mistakes and blame them on other staff.   And they would make themselves sound better, while making other staff sound totally incompetent.

Which isn’t always a sign of abuse (I have had one staff person who is just arrogant enough she thinks she’s always doing a better job than others, that’s just her personality type, I worked around it, she was good).  But it should always be a red flag.

lokicolouredglasses:

fandom-universe:

kungfucarrie:

The most dangerous phrase in the language is, “we’ve always done it this way.”

"Come on, let’s mix it up!" The heart surgeon says.
"B-but we’ve always done it this way!" The other replies, "this is how you replace a heart valve."
"That’s the most dangerous phrase in the human language!" The first surgeon replies haughtily as he inputs a fruit loop into the patient’s heart. "This will be his valve. He will be a fruit loop in a world of Cheerios."


(taken from this post on the experiments of Harry Harlow)
This is serious business, because this is a large part of how sexism, racism, homophobia, rape culture, ethnocentrism, etc. continue to happen.

lokicolouredglasses:

fandom-universe:

kungfucarrie:

The most dangerous phrase in the language is, “we’ve always done it this way.”

"Come on, let’s mix it up!" The heart surgeon says.

"B-but we’ve always done it this way!" The other replies, "this is how you replace a heart valve."

"That’s the most dangerous phrase in the human language!" The first surgeon replies haughtily as he inputs a fruit loop into the patient’s heart. "This will be his valve. He will be a fruit loop in a world of Cheerios."

(taken from this post on the experiments of Harry Harlow)

This is serious business, because this is a large part of how sexism, racism, homophobia, rape culture, ethnocentrism, etc. continue to happen.

tagged → #oppression

charminglyantiquated:

a little love story about mermaids and tattoos

tagged → #mermaids #romance #comic
"Originally, in the 20s and 30s, the stereotype of someone who was schizophrenic was the housewife who was sad and withdrawn, and would not do her duties as a housewife; would not do the housework. This was the typical case of schizophrenia. And then, in the 60s, something shifted. The actual criteria for schizophrenia shifted. A lot of psychiatrists and hospitals and police were encountering young, angry black men who were part of the civil rights movement. Who were part of the riots – the uprisings – in the Black Power movement. Who were angry. Who were perceiving a conspiracy of power against them, that was called paranoia. They would see it is white privilege, but it was called paranoia. And so we actually see the diagnositc criteria for schizophrenia change. So now you have anger and paranoia and hostility being included as criteria, whereas 30 years before they hadn’t been. Because the stereotype has changed. So there’s a way in which the DSM and the perspectives of the psychiatrists and the doctors who were giving these diagnoses is thoroughly politically constructed, and thoroughly dependent on the culture and context that they’re within."

Will Hall at Unitarian Church Vancouver Canada March 2012 - Transcript | Madness Radio (via blinko)

for anyone interested in reading more about how schizophrenia moved from being a diagnosis assigned to white, middle-class women to one used to pathologize and institutionalize noncompliant black men in the 1960s, jonathan metzl’s the protest psychosis: how schizophrenia became a black disease is a good place to start. i have a PDF scan of it, too — just ask.

(via onegirlrhumba)